In article <l0oB6.46437$Hd3.10053223@news1.rdc1.ne.home.com>, "I, Borg"

<dontU@wishUk.new> wrote:

I didn't see the original thread, so I won’t comment on that, but...

> Ya, really. I am sorry to cause such an uproar, I am sorry to be off

> topic. I just jumped in the group, read a post and threw out some

> comments off of the top of my head. That was a mistake in a few ways.

> I should have read all of the thread first, I should have not used

> words like Homo and Fag, and I should not have gotten angry and

> closed my mind. You have to understand, that after My initial post I

> was just torn to shreds by you people and it pissed me off. Well, I

> am like anyone else, when I get pushed I have an inclination to

> oppose.

>

> You people think about it, I bet at least one time you have been

> sucked into a war like I just had. I am still an ok guy, so try and

> accept my apologies and let this go because Although I am not an

> Atheist I am here for a real reason to be here, that has nothing to

> do with Homosexuality. I am no expert in psychology(as you all

> illustrated to me very colorfully) Hell, I didn't even know that

> Freud was debunked! LOL

>

> Anyways, as you can see my story is flawed. I really have a gay

> friend and he is one of the most upstanding people I can think of.

> Although I have expressed to him that I really think being gay is

> wrong, I really can't put my finger on why I feel that way.

It's really something you should think about, though. Look at it this

way: what is it that your friend could do in his sex life that could

harm you? He's your friend, and he's probably like most people in that

he doesn't like rejection, so he's not likely to ever proposition you,

so what, exactly is the harm in the fact that he likes men?

The only thing that I can think of is "the insecure het male

embarrassment factor": if he's openly gay, and he's your friend, you

might worry that other people will think that you might be gay.

If that's the case, then you have just given those other people control

over your life.

If it's not, and you can't answer my original question, then maybe you

should rethink your position.

> We are

> still pals, and we did talk about it allot. he try's not to act like

> a big fag, in fact he is rather butch and women adore him, even my

> own wife.

The majority of gay men I know are very masculine - after all, they are

into *men*. This should not surprise you.

> I have met many colorful people through him, and have sat

> on the couch and scoped out the chicks on TV with a couple of

> lesbians over at his place too. Some of your comments about him made

> me feel guilty that I was taking the position I took. And yes it is

> one of his friends who propositioned me, but he did it in a cool way,

> and I could just tell he liked me allot.

He was reckless, but "no" usually works with most people. Only boors

don't take it as no.

I'm quite curious - how, exactly, did he "do it in a cool way", and if

you thought that, why did it make you so defensive?

> He's gone now, and I have to

> clear my conscience on that list of bigot names for gays I fired off.

>

> Stillsunny posted a message to me. I don't know what happened! Her

> sincerity or something just knocked the wind right out of my sails.

Yeah, she does that.

> The whole reason I was initially attracted to this newsgroup was

> because of the critical thinking that goes on here, and then I went a

> blew it because I acted on impulse and threw out some garbage.

Hmmm. The critical thinking part is a bonus, for me. I mostly like the

weirdly aligned senses of humor, and occasional flashes of absolutely

brilliant writing that I find here.